You be the judge: my husband returned a gift my sister gave us. Should he confess? | Life and style

Prosecution: Elodie

The present was a care gesture, whether we liked it or not. His return was rude – it must be the maximum

I think my husband Max has committed a great social Fox, but it does not agree. He returned a gift-a ceramic bowl-my sister Ruby bought us for the driving of the house. Then she lied to her and said that he broke her by chance, and now I feel bad about everything.

I think that the gifts returned, especially from family members, are not severe, regardless of how you like them. The bowl was not our style: it was huge, with petals on the side and a kind of green ghost. We did not choose it ourselves. But this does not mean that he should go.

Ruby not only grabbed her randomly, I chose her for us and this means something. But Max returned her to the store without asking me. When I discovered that I laughed at the beginning, but then I asked him why he could not hide him in the backup room or something like that. He said: “We hate the bowl, I got rid of it.” But I think this is rude.

When Ruby came after a month after a month, I asked about the place where we put and helped Max broke it when we put it on our bathroom shelf, because I did not want to get out of it. I thought it was kind to say, “MAX hated it, so we returned it.”

Not everything at home needs to coordinate it completely. Sometimes, anomalous anomalous things sometimes make the house feel living and classes. Gifts carry feelings – return them, even approved, erasing that gesture. Before visiting Ruby, we discussed what would happen if I asked about the bowl. Max did not care. He said, “Tell her the truth,” but I thought a white lie would be nice.

Now I feel bad about it. I think Max should be clean for my sister and explain the reason for his return. But I also believe that returning gifts puts a bad precedent. It says we only accept the things that fit a specific template, and this type of perfection can be isolated. It is too late, but I want to realize that returning or re -introducing the joint gifts without asking me is not the way forward.

Defense: Max

We both hated it, so why do we feel that we are forced to maintain an ugly gift? I was not useful – only my work

I understand that giving gifts comes from a good place, but I do not think that this means that we are obligated to adhere to something that we will never use.

Ruby gave us the bowl, which looks like a melting in the oven. It was a terrible green color, and its edges were like sharing leaves. We are decorating our new home, which is aesthetic. Why should we keep something that does not fit? We did not really have a place. Elodie also agreed and hated it, but I took an initiative to return it.

Our space was carefully coordinated. I am a graphic designer-I love the mid-century design furniture and clean edges, and it has a similar taste for me. The bowl is stuck like a painful thumb.

I am not vibrant. I appreciate the thought and when I gave it to us, I hid my feelings. Don’t we all have to admit that gifts sometimes miss the mark? I exchanged it on a gray bowl I love and I love it and has a place in our house. This looks as if I were respecting the intention of the gift.

Personally, I had told Ruby about returning, but for some reason, Ilodi felt panic and lying when I asked. If you were there, I would have become clean. I think it is good to say: “We did not love it, but look at what we got it instead, thanks.” But Eloudi just said that I shattered the bowl because she believes that Ruby is sensitive and prefers to hear this from the truth.

All you did is get rid of the bowl that we hated. I don’t think it needs to be cleaned now; I have been done. Ruby was upset for five minutes, but she exceeded it.

If we keep every gift far from commitment, we will end up in a museum of others’ tastes. I want our home to reflect who we are. Anyone who brings us a gift must respect our philosophy. This does not make me rude, only in practice.

When thinking, I think I could run the Elodie idea before I went to the store to exchange it, but frankly I didn’t think this would be a big problem. However, I look at our beautiful bowl, I have no remorse.

The jury for the readers ’readers

Should Max come clean?

Be ahead and tell Ruby how much thought is appreciated, but this was not your taste completely, so I replaced him for something that remains from it and means the same thing. This is not sure that this would lead to a crime – in which case, adhere to lying!
Liz, 51

Max should at least have asked Ilodi before he returned the gift. She was from her sister, so they should have made a decision together. Since it was not a huge element, they could have kept it for emotional purposes if Elodie felt so severely.
Yong He, 33

It seems that cleaning now is meaningless – the white lie is better than harming Ruby’s feelings. But you should also realize that similar gifts are not necessary in the future! Max should have been speaking to Ilodi before returning the bowl.
Gillian, 56

Max should definitely discuss this with Elodie before he returned the gift, coincided with uncomfortable. But switching to something they love is better than hiding it away. It is too late to tell Ruby now, but they should have been honest and I hope not to care.
Emma, ​​54

I don’t think anything obtained from MAX admits at this stage. But he should have kept the bowl in the first place – he and he and Alaudi could have a good laugh on it.
Jan, 44

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