I am thirty thing A woman and I was with my partner Six years We have married for about half that time. In many ways, we have a wonderful marriage: She is my best friend as well as my wife. The issue is our sexual life. It has a very low sexual motivation, while I am high. You will not incite sex, due to the previous shock, and I can no longer bear He always does the chase. as a result of, Our sexual life is dead in water. I don’t want to end our marriageBut I want to be desirable. We tried to talk about this, But nothing It really changes, and I am now at the point where it has become less than its sexual attraction and stopped trying. Last year, fascination with someone was developed at work. Continue to A year and me I spent a lot of time to imagine how it would be with her. I just retreated because I have gone to myself. But that He made me realize how much I want sex With someone else. I have no idea how Go to tell my wife that I want to stay married, But sleep with others – However, I don’t think I can live with guilt if I have a secret relationship.
I have reached a point where you need to act. The levels of unacceptable desire usually occur in relationships, but when only one partner is ready to take steps to create more sexual parity, this warning is not likely to change. You will have to speak seriously with her in an inappropriate and inappropriate way and be honest about your feelings. Ask her to ask for some help and tell her that you are ready to support her journey, whether it is an individual conflict (perhaps the treatment for her previous shock is very useful), or the issue of couples that must be addressed. Start by doing your best to reassure her with your love for her and your desire to stay married.
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