As the first born, am I the smartest? Maybe – but siblings shape us in far more interesting ways | Imogen West-Knights

A A new book on brotherhood relationships, the dynamics of the family written by Suzanne Dominus, is looking at how things such as the arrangement of birth and the defined achievements of your brothers affect the path of a person’s life. As such, some of my country Favorite search He returned in the audience’s eye: studies that indicate that, as the three largest children, I am the most intelligent.

I’m kidding. I do not actually think that this is true in the group of my sister, but certainly, I will fight it, and I say this in the national press: I am more intelligent than you, comrades, emphasizes science. I am very interested in the siblings and their effects. To the extent that I wrote My first novel About the relationship of a brother’s sister. Your siblings form you in less deeper ways than parents, which means that their effect is less discussed, although it is of the same importance. However, Birth arrangement He remained a general magic, as parents suffer about whether the middle child has been ignored or was the oldest.

Certainly, I have the “Great Daughter Syndrome”: tending to the oldest girl in a family to take over the roles of responsibility. Planning of family issues in the past has fallen in the past, and I remain planned. I like to control the terrible degree I eat at the same breakfast and lunch every day of the week and I turn my list of tasks with the iron fist of the sealing commander.

However, I often believed that some of the original models to arrange birth in the brothers-the older daughter, comfortable medium brothers, and the youngest rebellious-should be very simple. They sat in my mind alongside things like signs of stars: fun, but ultimately unfounded ways to analyze the eternal puzzle because people are the way they are.

But it seems, as Dominus found, that studies carry these things. It seems that the older children outperform their younger counterparts in cognitive tests early in their first birthday, and perhaps because of the increase in the parents ’interest they receive during the drawing period, she is a single child. And the effect of brotherhood can be incredibly strong. Dominus meets the families in which every child continued to succeed in completely different fields, and has been pushed to do so specifically through what their brothers do.

My brother was a young, quiet boy, either naturally or because I did all his talk about him. We were very close to the children – I would have cut my hair like him, and I enjoyed it if we sinned people in twins. But we have grown to people completely different, and this may not be incorrect. For example, he continued to follow the subjects of STEM, and the humanities followed: the boy whose sister spoke of the numbers and concepts, and went to the words.

The age gaps between siblings can also complicate the effect of the arrangement of birth. My sister is about 10 years younger than me, while my brother is only 18 months old. She told me: “I feel you are smaller, with two siblings a little bigger than me, I mean, I am sculpted my perception of what is” wonderful “on a mixture of your interests.” It is in music (brother) and also video games (I). I think it’s also more emotional strength than me. We both wonder if this is partial as a result of getting a seat in the front row of all our chaotic decisions and teenage crises, and the ability to write down notes.

Now, my siblings, almost, we will be. We are all adults. Perhaps less than that we yearn consciously or still conscious of similarities or disagree from each other, but we behave live mirrors to each other to really see ourselves.

Sometimes, accompanied by my brother and sister, I have a sense of something similar to myself not much liked. Partially, this is the experience of slope close to slope in the family home: we start occupying childish roles to reconcile the dynamics built in childhood. But this is also that these people who saw every side of me. They were not afraid of challenging my least traitors. This feeling of impressive myself may be more accurate to be completely known for my best and worst features. I irritate my country, and I think I know better than others, my mudramrama.

I also see their faults, and they know that I see them. Not unexpectedly, some of these defects are shared. My brother asked about this, and said: “Seeing the characteristics of yourself in the people you love is very useful. Like, I am not so bad: I do not hate them on the way they are, but the opposite.” For all that we seize, it is nice for people to love him, unlike your parents, is not difficult to love you without restriction or condition, but who knows you exactly as your parents do, and long long.