“Friendship” shouldn’t be this stressful

Again when the Du Jour short video platform was called a small application vineThe famous user Anthony Badilla published Six seconds video This has become what we know today as a “publication that carries a pregnancy”, a video that briefly defines culture. It has become part of the modern colloquial. From his room at the hotel, Badilla seized two men speaking in a hot tub. hunting? They were so far from each other that they definitely had to scream on bubble roar to hear anything the other person said. In the background, Badilla sings, “Two of Bruce, Shelin” in a hot tub, five feet “because they are no Gay sex! “

Regardless of the discomfort in the depiction of two strangers in public places, the popularity of the immediate video indicated that Padilla picked up something in culture. (Nevertheless, something must be said about the quality of the iPhone as it is so bad in 2016 to the point that you cannot get any faces. Perhaps these hot men were just channels of a message that you have begged to deliver-God’s vessels, if you will!) The truth is: men face a problem in following friendships. And when they do, they fear weakness and judgment. Studies have shown that men face much more difficulty in women when it comes to the formation of close relationships, especially with other men. In 2021, the American Life Survey Center Find 27 % of men say they have six or more close friends, and even more shocking, 15 % of American men say they have no close friendships at all. This problem was fixed for years. In 2013, Friendship Researcher Jeffrey Grif The salon told that if men are hanging out, they would likely do more activities than conversations; The “shoulder to the shoulder” relations against the bonds “face to face.

While the stagnation of the male friendship is not a laughing issue, the new movie “Andrew Dyong” explores the phenomenon to reveal all its hysterical habits. The wonderful conjugation championship for Tim Robinson and Paul RoadThe film avoids a prosperous friendship between two adult men in the suburbs, and sows a package of “”Lony Tunes“Dynamite in its dynamism. The explosion occurs in a slow movement, allowing viewers to express Dyong’s fragments that have been created,” friendship “is a lot of comedy like a horror show, and a unique and vital warning story of the modern era designed for real life.

Deyoung is not lost at the time of access to the root of the case. From the opening sequence of the film, it proves that the character of Robinson, Craig, suffers from a firm problem with weakness. Craig and his wife Tami (Kate Mara) Sitting in a circle at the support group meeting, where Tami talks about her fear of returning to life after a modern battle with cancer. Frankly, she talks about her fears and how the experience made her more popular with herself and her life, even if that means that she also stars her face fears. When she expresses her primary fear, her cancer will return, Craig is in harmony with an upheaval reassurance. “It will not come BaaacCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK“Tami tells. Tami just wants to face her unknown husband alongside her. Instead, Craig brushes all their mutual fears under the carpet. If something is far from view, this is a non -mental matter, which allows Craig to continue to fulfill his idea of ​​his modern manhood.

Most things in Craig’s life work in the same way. Although the city is fighting for several months to get a few protrusions in his neighborhood, it still agrees to work in a digital campaign for the mayor, who contracts with Craig, which specializes in “making applications more addict” for a re -election campaign. He goes with Tamam to see the new marvel The film, and whenever anyone begins to talk about it, it will reduce them to spoilers instead of engaging in the conversation. When he talks about getting his own office, Craig is proud of how he allows him to close the door and take what he wants without bothering you. Like most male friendship victims, Craig sees his isolation as a pride point.

Tim Robinson in “Friendship” (as a compliment A24). That is, until the neighbor’s bundle is mistakenly left in the Craig house. When he goes to return the parcel to its legitimate owner, Craig Austin (Road), the evening of the mustache, who speaks the incontinence that has just moved in the street. At their first meeting, Austin is removing Craig’s crime by throwing some additional details and questions about what could be a brief interaction. Austin senses something in Craig and vice versa, although no one completely understands what this feeling can have.

I have tried this in the past, because I am sure everyone who knows as a man has. Interacting for the first time with another man is an accident. What are the right things to be discussed, and how do you convey an Platonic interest with another man without come very strong? When you are a young man in the world, you always play a game you have never wanted to be part of it, but this community demands you to play. As a person who considers himself an open book, he loves to put all cards on the table and enlarges Niceties and the small speaking to defuse the fears of a possible new friend, the reader’s playing is a particularly stressful task. Throw up to be gay, moreover, and always evaluate the amount Switch code It is necessary when meeting a straight man for the first time. At other times, I can feel a straight man at a party due to a great conversation because he is concerned that women in the room may think it is not straight, celibate and available – or what is worse, worried about what his other friends may think. I want to look at them in the eyes and beg, “Open to me. Just be someone! Why is hell to act so strange? Men are constantly wondering if they share a lot or share very little.

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When Austin and Crigig begins to accommodate regularly, Craig believes he escaped from this annoying choice. He enjoys the activities of the shoulder interconnection to the shoulder-watching the Austin band in playing, or crawling through the city channel and storming to the city hall-but it cannot discover the vitality of interactions face to face, especially when the external forces are brought to the equation. When Austin introduces his new friend to his circle from his comrades, Craig was disrupted. He wants to be in an interesting isolation. Wonderful, but not that try Hard on this topic. After a few beers with the players leads to a round of garage boxing, Craig tries his hand craftsmanship to persuade the room and punches the new BFF lollipop. (A friend of his brothers forever) The night ends early, and Craig is rejected from the group.

Things go from here, and she has a rare chance of punch as much as possible. His writing is meager and strong, and it packs the scenario full of outrageous scenarios that are more tired and strange than any major theatrical comedy in modern memory. For those who know Robinson from his Sketch series “I think it should be left”, the “friendship” you take familiar, but not monotonous. Robinson is unusually adept at pushing bits to the maximum and then skiing then the border line. He screams, plots, poured coffee, turns jokes into the father into the scales of the intestine, and makes the entire hall folding it into a ball, shaking laughter as much as anxiety. Although Deyoung said that he wrote the movie specifically for Robinson, he feels more in line with his years of working with the comedians Kate Birlant and John early, whose comedy mark has risen similarly through the studied Deyoung direction and writing in short films and graphics. “Friendship” may be the first time in the Deyoung feature, but you barely know this from his confidence in his vision. Although he is dealing with a very relevant theme, he does this with such a huge imagination and a popular directive accuracy so that “friendship” reaches the classic comedy immediately.

All the great comedy rings with the truth, after all. There is no denial that we all move at a certain level of narcissism when approaching new friendships in a digital world. We focus more on how people realize us more than our interest in others. How many times did you come out of a conversation, wondering whether the person you are talking to enjoy spending time with you? In real close friendships, this is rarely a question that we ask ourselves. But we live at a time when you are noticeable, as it means choosing to spend time with someone, far from the phone, much more than it was. Friendships can often feel a competition between us and a cell. “What if they feel bored with me because I cannot always provide the same endless stream of dopamine that the phone provides in their pocket?” It was never easy to feel congestion like a burden, and anxiety that fear may become a reality that keeps many people isolated like Craig.

Tim Robinson and Paul Road in “Friendship” (with the permission of A24). While this brand of male insulation is enlarged for “friendship”, it has realistic effects and fatal results. now, Nathan Felder He does a pioneer and gets to know his profession on HBO. ”rehearsal“Explore one of the first causes of the death of the plane collision that no one successfully treated after: anti-society behavior. In its studied, strict-artistic testing process on the concept high entertainment, or directives from the basic channels before it avoids the reducing of males, when there is experimental occurrence. Theory and studies and were made in familiar situations such as these, which Dyong also does as well Skill in his movie, it can be terrifying it.

Of course, we eventually learn the how much Austin Nrése Road is also. He is not the ideal friend, or the perfect man. Another person is struggling to appear without disadvantage to maintain a societal idea of ​​male cold. His male that seems friendly is a mixture of characteristics that were chosen to give an atmosphere of friendliness. Everything is malicious – more than that: it is a waste of time. Although “friendship” is an unforgettable unique comedy, it is more impressive that Deyoung can arrive across the screen and shake the viewer by the shoulders. Rarely like a wonderful comedy these days, it is even rare for anything to remain alongside a few lines with the audience after the movie ends. With “Friendship”, Deyoung not only called his fans to consider how they deal with their own relationships; He has created a movie that men can see together to be discussed after that. “Friendship” is an activity from the shoulder to the shoulder that generates an interaction face to face, preferably five feet.