I think I have a sexual problem. I can ejaculate alone When I masturbateBut not with a partner. This has become a problem as a partner It complains about my inability to ejaculate when I I am with her. I have finished now 30 I started worrying about me. Is there any treatment or help I can get it?? I really love this woman and You find it exciting, but I I am not so Capable to reach the ejaculation point.
The transition from individual sex to sex partner sex is not always easy. Some people are accustomed to certain types of touch, pressure, or strokes while masturbating to the extent that they find a transformation into different sensations with someone else, very difficult. In addition, some people need an intense concentration to achieve or ejaculate, anxiety or distract the intimate relationship with a partner that cuts their usual process.
It is possible to re -train your sexual style to accommodate a partner – and although this can be done better with the help of a sexual processor, you can start by looking at your accurate needs in terms of your sexual mechanics and encouraging your partner to help by trying to repeat it. For example, you may need to ask her to use a more stable or lighter touch while foreplay.
If you find that sexual intercourse does not provide you with sufficient motivation, one of the strategy is to use more exciting toys that will increase the excitement before penetration. If you think your problem is attention or anxiety, you will have to find soothing mechanisms that work for you.
Basically, the anxiety you feel about your partner’s complaints makes it difficult for you to ejaculate and enjoy fun of sex. We hope you can stop thinking about the love industry as a task and simply focus on giving and receiving pleasure.
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