I no longer have any sexual desire – and now my husband is talking about a threesome | Life and style

I got married three years ago He no longer has any sexual desire. I am in a deep love, but my husband says I stopped. We have very young childrenSo I am I am exhausted all the time. He imagines a strange Roms while dreaming about a hot meal, shower And nap. I have no Support from family or friends for our children, not to mention myself, but I really want my husband to be happy and satisfied. Every time he brings sexIt looks like just something on List of homeworkAnd he is always late at night when I try to sleep. I think I He was having difficulty jamming life with children, but he insisted that I have been getting rid of it since we got married. for me The family passed me when I decided to marryAnd I will lie if I say that we have an easy relationship, but there is crazy love here. I You find it very attractive – I am just Do not behave For it for some reason. he GetS is very annoyed and it is now He speaksG about adding others to the mixtureAnd it is something I am He never wanted.

Please understand that, given the status of your family, it is expected that you will not feel sexual passion at this time. It is very common to exhaust, as well as hormonal changes after birth, to reduce desire. You need to quietly educate your husband about this and ask him to be more patience. It is understood that it lacks the enthusiastic sexual life that I had previously enjoyed together, but it is not fair to complain and make you feel uncomfortable by proposing new adventures such as unwanted trio. Your sexual motivation will eventually return, but at the same time, you may ask him to help reduce the child’s care for your help more. On the other hand, it may struggle with your focus from it to your children. Many men suffer from a feeling of loss and sadness during this time. He spoke to him gently about this, and gave him an opportunity to express it. You may ask him a question such as: “I have expressed frustration that our sexual life is not the same as it was before we have children, but can you also help me understand your feelings about the general changes in our lives since we started our family?”

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