The mother divided the Internet after she revealed that she was giving her daughter a weekly allowance at a value of $ 60 – but not paying her son.
Reddit user U/muky_willingness763A 45 -year -old mother explained that her family moved earlier this year to be closer to her Elderly parents. With its function turning into a hybrid model, she needed calm Work from home The preparation but its new bedroom was very small to accommodate an office. She asked her 15 -year -old son and 17 -year -old daughter if they were ready to give up their rooms from 8:30 am until 5 pm so that she can work there instead.
“I suggested this to them-my son rejected a flat (” There is no way in hell “), but my daughter offered her room and half to impose fees on rent.” “I am *****,” The post quickly raised more than 13,000 weeds.
He took the comment seriously, the mother decided to pay her daughter $ 20 a day, as she totaling $ 60 a week, as compensation for her area. She indicated that she took the smallest wet room at home.
She added: “Now the case: My son is that his sister gets $ 60.
She said that she is paying them regularly to visit old friends and remembered her son that she would not tolerate the fact that she spoke with respect. But things escalated.
He criticized her son on his sister, describing her as “opportunistic as ****”, and responded to his description as “a little *****”.
To cancel the position of the situation, the mother suggested that one of them spend a night in their ancestral house-and not as punishment. “My son chose to go and while dropping it, my mother told me that I prefer my daughter and should push them equally. My father did not agree, saying that my son has the opportunity,” she explained.
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Rachel Marmore, licensed mental health advisor and head of wellness officials at the Couples Foundation in South Florida, said, Newsweek This position is not only related to money – it reflects deeper emotional dynamics.
She said: “What this mother did was not necessarily patronage-it was a response to the presentation of real life and a useful agreement for the two parties with her daughter.
She said that the mother did not necessarily appear favoritism, but the son may have felt that he was neglected because fairness in families often feels emotionally and not logical. She added that even fair decisions can be hurt if they are not carefully and transparent.
She said: “In the end, harmony in the family does not come from perfect options – it comes from how to fix it, how we listen, and how we confirm that every person is important. Especially when he harms.”
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Redditors was divided.
One user wrote: “I can understand your logic, but I also do not fully agree with giving one child like this big money and the other nothing, and I think you miss the biggest image of your son, as he feels that his needs are not important within the family.”
Another added: “I agree that $ 60 a week is too much, but it also affects the daughter during school rest periods. The daughter is committed to waking up, and mostly (if not completely) from her room at 8:30 every day, OP must work.
Others indicated that the son has the same opportunity. “The deal was without money involved. Op first asked about who wanted to give up their space, only after the daughter agreed and drew a joke about the rent, the money entered the picture. If the son had obtained the critical offer, he accepted him or at least had no reason to annoy otherwise since he refused.”
Another was less sympathetic. One user wrote: “Deddums. Maybe the next time he will twice think about his mother’s rude.”
Newsweek I arrived at u/muky_willingness763 to comment across I responded. We could not verify the details of the case.
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