After years of sexual relationship with my wife, I I am now KrafJi rest Physical contact. Not the actual sexBut simply CuddlG and detention are close while naked. But M.The wife refused. I We suggested Try to treat “gradual sensitivity”, That will include Lie No physical contact. We will build from there Do you know that this will not lead to sexual contact. My wife, when she suggested that, He was not interested at all, In fact, I was active.
She told me that the problem was in my head and that it had no interest in the intimate physical relationship. She also said that this was Natural for older women. I I told her that my impression that the elderly were tightening the already appropriate physical touch. Then I agreed to be able Just lie down in her clothes fully dressed before retirement to a National room. But this was just embarrassed and insulting for meBecause it was clear that it was Not in the least investment in my existence. So I completely abandoned the idea. In other words, our marriage is healthy. Sometimes, I consider to ask her whether she can accept intimate in another placeBut I think this will lead to end From our marriage. I feel besieged – I love my wife, but My resental grows.
You feel despair and sadness is understandable, and you deserve to be happier. Your needs are real and valid, but in reality it is not a sexual problem; Instead, it is a struggle for power that you lose. Your joint mission is to break down barriers that prevent the vision of simple human needs and simple struggles for each other, summons sympathy, and find a common ground.
When two people are locked up in this type of emotional “prison”, it is very difficult to see a way out. There can be a way, but the impasse that developed it wants to get splendor is that it is unlikely to be resolved without participating in both of you in a type of mediation-and it is preferable to be couples advice. Many husbands lack the necessary communication and negotiation skills to overcome such a problem without external help.
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