A few years ago, I finally managed to persuade my mother that she could not live alone in her home-in which my family lived since the 1970s-and she needed to move to a smaller cooperative apartment in a close retirement society. But neither she nor I do not realize how tense the sale of the house and the purchase of an apartment.
Although I do not assume advice to anyone about the technical aspects of buying and / or selling real estate, I have moved away from experience with striving visions on how to deal with some emotional crises that could occur. Here are some things that you learned.
It is not you – it’s the process
If this is the first time that you sold or bought a house, prepare – it will be a wild journey. Many participate: find a buyer, negotiate a sale, or find a new house and negotiate the purchase. Or both. Between, there are open homes, legal aspects, inspections, unexpected expenses, and tons of leaves. So, unless you are really in real estate, you may tend to surrender and hide under your bed at some point.
You may find that it is useful, at least in the beginning, to consider it a research project rather than something you have an emotional relationship. Read, watch videos, talk to friends who have passed them – do what you can collect information. Use your favorite Implementing observation or information collection To track everything: Idea, Google, Keep, Apple, notice everything that suits you. But do the path everyone These links and sources, because I can assure you that at some point you will find yourself suddenly thinking, “Wait, don’t I read anything about it?” And you will want to know that you can find it.
When using help, go with your bumps
I once asked a friend of the lawyer that I should suffer from a real estate treatment, and I ignored. “Any lawyer can deal with it,” she said.
However, when renting a lawyer, a real estate agent, or any professional, pay attention to your instincts. When I searched for a lawyer to sell my mother’s house, the first person he found it seemed to be a nice and direct person until he said: “We will send the fees via your email. Don’t let her scare you. She will not be kept. Just sign it, and we can go.”
When a lawyer tells you not to pay attention to beautiful printing, this is definitely a red sign. The agreement that was included in about 20 “if this happens” with the marks of the attached dollar, and yes, it feared me. I answered that we would not rented his company (and refused to make the three calls that I received from him after that). Instead, we found someone who sent us a simple agreement from one page, set all the costs that we bear in the foreground, and proved that they are effective, honest and useful.
You will get worse – take a breath
Buying and selling homes can be a budget, especially when you pay money from selling your current residence for the next purchase. Sometimes, things go sideways.
Two weeks after my mother’s house went on the market, we found the ideal cooperative apartment, immediately after a nice couple expressed his interest in buying my mother’s house. Great timing, right? So we sent in an attempt and wait for us. I lived in a tense expectation. Will the couple close the deal at the house? Will our offer be accepted on the apartment?
The invitation came from the real estate agent while I was attending an event event where a series of new loudspeakes were presented from Bluetooth. I ran to the bathroom and took the call. Our offer has been accepted, assuming that we can assure them that we have money on hand.
I said I will return to them. I called the agent who was helping us selling home. Have you heard from the spouses so far? We needed a firm commitment, and told her why. She said she would call me.
It took a few minutes, but finally, the phone rang. “Bad News”, our real estate agent said. The couple, and perhaps our discovery we were desperate or thought about this as a player, have dropped their offer with several thousand dollars – take or leave it. The agent said: “I cannot tell you what to do.” “But if you are, there is no way to take this.”
I agreed, I called the other agent, and told her that we could not give the giving to the apartment. Then I gave myself a few minutes to overcome my anger before I liked to admire the Bluetooth speakers.
We did, shortly after, get a reasonable offer for the house and found an apartment that was not perfect but it was good enough. And I discovered that sometimes it is good enough – business.
A week after my mother moved from the house and her new owners moved, I was in Las Vegas and attended the CES commercial exhibition. I have been exhausted from the weeks of hunting apartments, open homes, negotiations and meetings. Compared to that, the familiar chaos of CES – the sellers, developers, correspondents and other attendance masses – was a relief. I was sitting in the hallway outside the press room, trying to take a quick sandwich before my next meetings, when my phone rang. He was a lawyer.
He said: “The new owners say that the second floor toilet does not work.” “They want to take $ 200 from the final part of their payment to pay for a new toilet.”
I said: “It is a low flow toilet.” “We just bought it a year ago. It’s completely new. It is environmentally. It should only be careful in using it, but it will provide water.”
“I told them,” he said. “They insist that it is not used.” Stop temporarily. “We can fight them on this, but given what you pay me in an hour, I will only give them $ 200, get the rest of the security, and leave it. Live your life.”
I waited for a moment, and saw a crowd of journalists and technical actors who were rushing the past, and took a deep breath. Well, I said. “Give them money.” It was.
I never regret the decision. Sometimes it is better to lose a small battle in order to get the war behind you.
When my parents moved to their home, they were euphoria. They grew up in Brooklyn from the working class, New York, who raised their children on residential projects, and finally they finally managed to buy a real house-with a real courtyard. It was not a large piece of property-a small corner piece of one of the suburbs-but there was a long-appearance ever-appearance that waved on the horizon on the house, the pear tree that was still gave pears, and the pole of science. My father and his brother planted flowering shrubs around the house and on the science, and added the flowers and herbs every spring. I love my parents that little garden. It appears that he returned in his favor: During Hurricane Sandy, the ceiling of their house was the only one in the neighborhood that was not completely harmful, protected by that greenery.
When we sold the house, my mother and I told the new owners the story of Hurricane Sandy, and we advised them to keep the tree. I was hoping to keep at least some shrubs.
About two months after we left, I traveled across the house. Green, flowering trees, shrubs, and even flags are removed. The only green spaces were a flat area of broken grass with small bushes and some sick flowers next to the front door. The garden went.
Things change. She leaves a house, happily or reluctant, and goes to another. This is what to move – you are not only changing your living space, but you are only your circumstances, the areas around you, and your life. I now know that although you may remember your old home with affection, it is important to create a new life in your next home so that you can enjoy it too.
