Mummy, Charlie Call me fat today‘
If your child was upset because his colleague was uncommon in his body, it is natural that he wants to reduce his distress: “You are not fat, my love, you are beautiful!” However, trying to reassure them in this way is likely to undermine the body’s confidence. First, it enhances a message that being a bad fat, which sustains the stigma, and instills the belief that only some types of body are acceptable, and raise fear about weight gain. Second, it focuses on the largest bodies is the problem, instead of summons and stigmatization behavior. Third, it hints that it cannot be fat and beautiful.
Instead, you might say: “This seems very painful. How was this for you?” Or “What do you think they meant?” To help verify their feelings before encouraging self -acceptance by saying something like: “Sometimes people say harmful things because they are struggling with their own feelings. Or, they may only repeat the harmful things that they heard about bodies without really thinking.
This type of conversation helps enhance emotional intelligence, critical thinking, self -experience and confrontation skills (all support self -acceptance). They also claim valuable discussions about the diversity of the natural body, the standards of beauty, and how the words of others reflect their prejudices and confrontation mechanisms, and not an objective fact.
If you discover that for you Kid, who was canceling the fat, and exploring what happened with sympathy and curiosity. Was it a neutral note, such as calling a long person or a brunette? Or was it aimed at insulting? What were they thinking or feeling at that time? There may be signs that they adopt the positions of the body’s destruction from its environment, which need to be treated.
If you realize that these situations have come from you, be sure to sympathize with yourself. You have been included in the culture of the diet that sanctifies thinness and the devil of fat, and this air conditioning will take some attention to attention. Surround yourself with people, books, podcasts, and resources that confirm self -acceptance (societies like health Every size can be really useful).
‘Dad, am I handsome?‘
It is the fact that physical gravity, especially when it corresponds to the standards of societal beauty, can affect how adults and peers interact with children. Research indicates that children with no more than three young people can develop anti -fat bias from their surroundings. It is often attractive to an integral part of the children’s sense of social acceptance and the consent of peers. Therefore, our task is to overcome this by amplifying the value of the non -appearing -based traits and what our bodies can do beyond the way they look.
Questions like: “Am I handsome?” Or “Am I beautiful?” It is an opportunity not only to learn more about what your child matters and how they feel, but also to enhance the fundamental qualities they possess, which enhances a more stable feeling of self -value. You may respond to, “You are beautiful inside and outside!
Please, please can I get this serum? I need it!‘
Make -up, skin care and supplements that now target children have become great works. Companies realize that individuals who suffer from shame or dissatisfaction with themselves tend to buy more, so it is not in their interest to enhance self -acceptance.
Children will, of course, want to simulate their role models, including their parents, so it is useful to check their curiosity about using these products by saying something like: “I love how much laugh, and I can see that you are excited to try new things.”
If you have a younger child who wants to try makeup, remind them that some products are for adults and older children only. However, there may be appropriate alternatives suitable for age for them to try to confirm that it is for fun, sensory experience and creativity instead of meeting beauty standards. These paints may include face, lipstick or shine gel.
When it comes to skin care products, explain to your child that, like cleaning your tooth with a brush, your skin care revolves around maintaining your health, not just the appearance. Their skin is young and sensitive, so the use of many products can be harmful; Therefore, they need to treat their skin gently. This may include their help in choosing a sunscreen and moisturizer.
Do I need protein vibrations to get hench?‘
For boys, the ideal, ideal, muscular, muscular body depicted by the media and fitness culture often makes protein supplements and gym is attractive. You can encourage their interest in building strength and care for their bodies, while providing reassurance that most people can meet their nutritional needs without the need for nutritional supplements.
Given that boys also struggle with the fears of the body’s images, it is also understood that children and men come in all shapes and sizes, which encourages self -acceptance and self -care for solid material criteria.
Mummy, is this food bad for me?‘
Thinking about how to talk about food is another way that parents can support the health of the body. Start by avoiding the language that calls foods as good or bad, and resists the desire to restrict the foods that are severely defined. When food is diabolical or limited, children tend to greed more, and they are more likely to test sin and shame when they eat it. All foods can be part of a healthy diet, and the greater the number of children, the more likely their intuition appears about what their bodies really need.
Talking neutral about all types of food does not mean that you should give your children free to eat what they want all the time. However, this means serving a variety of foods whenever possible and allow your child to choose the amount of each type of food provided.
As shown in Responsibility partition form By Ellyn Satter, your job is to determine when and what is the place to serve your food, and provide regular meals and snacks; Your child’s function is to determine whether each type of food should be eaten, and how much they want to consume.
