On the last day, a visiting friend planned a trip to the seashore. I was taking it on the scenic road to the station, and I hindered it happily, when she indicated: We might miss our train.
We made it in seconds to spare it. My friend was very understood, but it was an invitation to wake up.
In general, I prefer to go with the flow. Being the employees of their own account (and without the two) makes this possible, but I also hate feeling pressure through a table.
It was part of the incentive to leave my job five years ago was to avoid the morning rush. Although I made my best to hold a day meeting at 8.45 am, I was always wandering around at 8.47 am, and I already feel failed.
I allowed me to work from home more ease-but visit my friend made me think I may have become very comfortable to cut things well.
They are not just trains (and aircraft – costly error). I am often optimistic about the duration of the task, which leads to a fully preventable rush and stress.
Behavioral scholars We call this “event time”, and this means that my inner feeling of time guides me for more than an hour. “Around the clock”, on the other hand, they organize their lives around the external signals-Eat lunch at the same time, for example. At work, they may spend a specified time on a work mission, and then announce that it is over.
For the time of the event, the “end” is open: What is the duration of the series?
Daily, it can feel time that it slips through my fingers; Hours pass in blur. The enemy of time-this feeling of the days that roll in one-annoys me, while these summits of tension are all stimulating misery because they are self-imposed.
Can I manage my time better?
Your relationship with time is the “primary element” in how to try your days, as Ian Taylor says in his new book in his book: The Psychology of Time and how to spend it.
When you feel that your time spends well, there is a feeling of flow. Taylor – Like when I know I am free to take a breathtaking path or fall into the research rabbits holes. But if you do not wander how your hours have passed with your values or welfare, for example, this can hinder your life and destroy your life.
Taylor, who is looking at stimulus at the University of Luburu, says it’s more accurate than being exhausted or burning.
Sometimes, the feeling of “no time” can speak more about your perception and your environment than your work burden. “If you are surrounded by people who move feverish from one thing to another, then you will get absorption,” he says.
But Taylor warns me not to seek to “manage” my time: to pay a lot of attention around the clock in reverse results. “This idea is that the time is completely flexible and look, I think, pressing a lot of pressure.”
It is natural for you to enter and outside the periods of high pressure and contraction, but liquidity-which aims to lack friction or stress in the individual table-may be a better goal than the equal division between work and entertainment.
One study It has been found that people who report very little time “rarely feel rushing” are happier than others, he notes. “The transition smoothly from one activity to another, being busy but does not feel abroad,” is an ideal condition. “
For me, this means that trying to shift, if it is a little, from the time of the event until the time of the hour-to admit the difficult deadlines, give myself enough time to meet it, and prevent that uncomfortable race to the end.
I need more clarity about where my time goes. For three days, I follow my activity on a spreadsheet, with 15 minutes.
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Almost immediately, Taylor is warned of email (“” The lowest form of work “): I spend twice the time in my inbox as I imagined, or intended. I realize that some emails are busy with business, and have been often sent to make myself feel productive.
The other revelation of my grandparent is the recession in the middle of the afternoon. From 2 pm to 5 pm, my focus fades to the point that I am facing even to record what I do. If we look back on the spreadsheet, I see that I coded a cut -off cut as “writing”, which deleted a lot of deadly social media in the brain.
There is an inconsistency here: I must deal with intense tasks for thinking first, instead of relaxing a day with email, tasks and manager that can be done in low energy mode. I tend to exercise at 9 am or 10 am, but pushing him to lunch may extend to my productivity.
Taylor usually says, the will of the will is eroded throughout the day, which means that your best hours can be easily lost to the supervisor. “Get a little nutrition in the first thing – make some small progress in your dreams or aspirations, however you want to express them – is particularly important.”
But seeking to remove the juice every hour is not recommended either. He says, “I am a big fan of scheduling,” he says. Taylor says the balanced schedule is supported by a mixture of motivation-not only the will of will-feels more effort.
Identity is a strong effect, often hidden from behavior. For example, self -described bookworm does not have to use the will of will or external incentives to find the time to read; It is easy. Likewise, thinking about yourself can be as an enemy or writer the first step to make this habit.
If the time is withdrawn or slipping, there may be a separation between your feeling in particular and how you spend your days.
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Taylor says: “Think about your personality and values, and live with what is in line with that,” says Taylor. “It takes a lot of effort, thinking and thinking, but life will be much easier.”
If I really want to start giving myself enough time to arrest a train or meet a deadline, I can try to guide my values - focusing on the unpleasant physical sensations of tension, the threat posed by Nomati and a good humor, and my desire to be a reliable friend.
I can also start thinking about myself as a person with dates. But Taylor says, the most important thing is to avoid “dead time”, or the hours you feel lost – this will differ between individuals.
Those who reach the airport early are not necessarily more virtuous than me. If they spend those hours anxiously, any mental comfort of early arrival may be denied, as Taylor notes.
On the other hand, I will confess-for me, there is no more suspense for life from doing my journey with a minute to spare it.
