My partner doesn’t know I take Viagra – and I worry that one day it won’t work | Life and style

Twenty years ago, I had a bad disintegration with my children’s mother. Stress and our guilt feel the experience of erectile dysfunction. I consulted the doctor and described Viagra. The next day to get a tuning, I had sex with my girlfriend, but about a month later I decided Try without the tablet and failure failure. So I Return to take A tablet device every time I have sex. Get up For them online now So I don’t even Talk to a consultant. I Take half a pill 20 minutes Before having sex, without telling my partner; However, I feel nervous in The idea of ​​not working Sometimes I get Heart palpitations. I wonder if I should return to the doctor and get transplant or any other form medicine. My darling thinks that I am a virley man And you will be shocked if I know that I took the blue pill.

You may be the heart palpitate that you describe as a source of anxiety, so please arrange a personal consultation with the doctor immediately. Otherwise, your health is your own business. If this does not affect someone else you do not need to share your medical facts – or your drug protocol – with anyone else. One of the useful things about ED Meds is that it can reduce erectile dysfunction – but this does not seem to be working in your case. You are doing your best to “perform” well, but this stressful focus is not necessarily the most productive way for real sexual pleasure, and real intimacy. Stop temporarily and think about what really gives you fun; I bet that it is not only about erectile dysfunction. You deserve the exciting fun more relaxed.

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