for me wife MeBoth women in our sixties, were Together for more than 20 years. We stopped having sex about 13 years ago, due to a mixture of getting a dog (sleeping with us) and passing through menopause. I had a little calm in my sexual desire when I went through menopause Nine years ago, however CAmy Rouring again. She is not interested in sex at all It is also upset that I have a storage problem, although I In treatment for that. I think it may use this as an excuse to block affection (When asked, do not confirm or deny it). Do you think? There is any hope that we can solve the “death of the legendary bed”? We are in the treatment of husbands, but I don’t think so It helps a lot.
The position of “blocking affection” can be completely aware or it can be aware. In other words, the person may be completely committed to her partner and desires (in principle) to be intimate, but deeply holds the arrests of this desire. I am happy that you are in the treatment of husbands, where over time, the dilemma between you and the healing of many issues that have arisen in the past. Try to avoid describing the lack of intimate relationship as “the death of the legendary bed”, because this attractive phrase can support a powerless position. Your partnership is far from clichés.
During your many years together – for all kinds of understandable causes – you have made unanimously undeclared agreements to allow dogs, menopause and life in general by cutting off your exciting contact without finding the way back. The fact that sexual desire has come to “roar” is a great thing for you, but it is clear that your partner is not ready. Be gentle, patient, understand, open, care … and do.
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