My partner is non-binary. I’m worried the lack of traditional gender roles is impacting our sex life | Life and style

My partner and me In the middle of us-20s and we were together a little more than a year ago. They are not dual and all my previous relationships with women (I am a woman). I love my partner a lot, but our relationship has become less regular throughout our relationship. I wonder If this is because of There is no strong feminine/male dynamic, Where one person is expected to have a specific role. Do you have any advice to overcome this?

Are specific roles important to you? Is it important for your partner? This will be a useful conversation with them.

I do not necessarily assume that your low sexual frequency is associated with the roles of the sexes. You may need to create some separation from your partner – it is not necessarily associated with exciting communication, but in your life in general.

The decrease in sexual desire can be due to many possible factors, including stress, fatigue, the side effects of medicines, and basic relationship issues such as unjustified dissatisfaction. Ironically, even a high degree of convergence in the relationship can reduce the exciting spark. If you always know what the other thinks about, and tends to end each other, you may start trying each other as a family, creating barriers in front of sexual arousal. Sexual dynamic is usually more exciting when the other looks at each partner as a real individual, so consider adding the element of surprise to your daily activities as well as to your intimate relationship.

There are many ways to try each other as things of desire as well as loving partners, so he sought to try each other differently. How do we look at ourselves in the context of our partners is very important. Be more creative with your approach and start sex, and more fun. Stop repeating the same moves and allows you to have exciting experimentation.

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