The Clooneys never argue. In a fantasy world of riches and beauty, I wouldn’t either | Rachel Connolly

SOmebody giving George Clooney a medal. In an interview with CBS a few days ago, the actor claimed that he was unprecedented, in 11 years of marriage, He argued with his wifeHuman rights lawyer Amal Clooney. Let’s just accept that you are true that you can be married to a lawyer for more than a decade and do not find yourself in an argument. In this case, I assume, why should it not be? These are one of the most beautiful people in the world. Moreover, it is very rich. They can have homes and holidays wherever they want. They can buy any clothes and dinner they choose. What should you argue if you live such a doctrine?

Indeed, I find myself wondering about this often these days, especially when I see the strange scene of wealthy and successful celebrities who argue with strangers online. Perhaps this is evidence that for some people, even in life that there are no material problems, artificial grievances can always be invented. However, I can dream that I will not end up, and that if I am rich, I will never argue. In fact, I simply will not have a phone. I will live a life surrounded only by beauty. I would like to buy new socks and new silk underwear every day. I would like to spend every minute of my days smiling quietly. And if you encounter problems with my partner, I will simply employ someone – let’s call him an expert in the tension of the relationship – to work on things on my behalf.

To that day, though, the arguments are part of life. Most of us, with our faces and intermittent bodies, the brittle Bennin balances, enlarged polyester clothes, and our tense sleeping tables, argue with our partners with a degree of regularity. But I don’t think this is necessarily bad. As long as no one uses physical strength or other forms of intimidation or manipulation, such as fake tears, or other forms of cruelty such as lying, I think the argument can be a very fruitful tool in the relationship.

As a straight woman who lives in a society that tends to teach men from a young age, homework, for example, has always called for a rudeness about works and comfort from the beginning of the relationship. Let any violation pass, no matter how small. It should be met an uninterrupted meter with a large counter about the lack of understanding, love, your personality, etc. The cute disturbing will not do. More Milodramrami, that was better. No sane person prefers such an argument instead of wiping the meter. In my experience, if you have this argument largely enough, you need to get it only once. It is either that, wipe the meter and clean the refrigerator shelves and put underwear for another person in the washing basket forever, and bother them gently all the time. I have chosen my choice for a long time and I have not seen back.

There are other things that you have learned about the arguments in relationships over the years. If you quietly tell your partner that something is annoying or annoying and that they continue to do this anyway, they do so on intentionally. Use this information how you want. Another thing: You can’t have a fruitful argument with someone when you do not agree to the basic facts of what happened. I do not mean how people felt about things – I mean if someone says that the car was shattered and the other says that. An argument about it will never end. And you should never agree that you saw a car accident when you did not, or vice versa, for my rationality, as well as the other person. The agreement with another person’s imagination to put it is very dangerous, because it makes the imagination feel reality. I have learned a simple strategy for this a short time ago. Now I just say: “We live in different facts. We cannot take a fruitful conversation about this until it changes.”

In general, if you have the same argument over and over again, you will have again and again. One of you can change, or one of you can accept that things will not change. Or you can discuss this forever. There are no other options. And the controversy about something forever is a bad option.

When it comes to this, I am a strong advocate to make your red lines clearly known and then walk away if crossed. I can’t get an expert in tension in the relationship or my daily fresh silk interior clothes, but I can have a relatively quiet life.

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