This is how we do it: ‘We live in a tiny flat with our kids, so we have sex in the woods at night’ | Life and style

Anuk, 31

I suffered from sexual intercourse with the former partners, but I have never tried to give myself – I felt very shy

When I met David three years ago, my marriage was collapsing and had a child. It was a very low moment. My husband was a cool man. Part of what finally motivated me to leave is that it seemed unable to take care of me, or even talk to me really after the birth of our daughter.

What surprised me for the first time about David was his warmth. He was a father and was also through a difficult chapter, so I could understand what I was suffering from. David is very funny and editor. What I love most is spontaneity. Its brain wirelessly different for me. I can be completely rigid, but it encourages me to reduce. It makes me feel upset, which I did not feel in my marriage.

I was unhappy with my body after having a child – but David really built my confidence. I am embarrassed to admit this, but I did not know much about my anatomy before I met him. I was suffering from sexual intercourse with the former partners, but I have never tried to give myself – I always felt very shy. In my previous relationships, after the initial excitement that faded, I was stopping the ability to peak, but I felt very shy to tell any of my partners. I convince myself that sex really does not matter a relationship – and that I can do without it.

When David discovered that I never used sex game, he gently encouraged me to buy a few. Now we have a large group, and we use it together. We live with my little baby and his teenager in a small apartment, so sex can be difficult, logistically. But David reached some innovative solutions. We live in the countryside, so sometimes the car is lifted down to the corridor to a wooded area and we have sex on the back seats. Sometimes we have even sex on the ground in actual wood. There is more space in this way.

David is very comfortable in his skin and this makes sex fun and cheerful. If you have told me three years ago, I will feel this freedom, I will never believe you.

David, 38

Anwk has never used a vibrator before we meet and now we have a huge box of games that we hide under our bed

I remember the first time that I saw Anoc, in the car park at work. I stopped death in my paths with a look at her face. She was beautiful, of course, but she looked very lost. I just went through a terrible divorce, so I got to know something that I was feeling in her expression. We started talking and inviting her to have coffee. I immediately felt near it.

Sex has always been very loving among us, but when we met for the first time, Anuk was really lacking confidence. I think she felt sex was dirty or wrong. I would like to tell her how amazing and you will not believe me. So I will spend a lot of time reassuring her that sex is not bad, it’s fun and you should enjoy it.

I got out of her peel a lot. I am a gender speaker. I don’t claim that any type of adonis, but I can do a good job in my words. So we put the mood in this way, then we also use sex games. Anooor has never used a vibrator before we meet but now we have a huge box of games that we hide under our bed.

Sometimes when we stick to friends, sex appears in a conversation, I see Anwk’s eyes fully light and think about how much they change. She used to be so shy that she was looking at the ground in any mention of the topic. I also helped my confidence too. I was broken when I met her, but I am now noisy. I built me ​​a lot.

We have already transferred some of our games to the back of my car, so that we can go out to the woods and get some time away from children from time to time. We live in a small apartment with our children, and it is extremely difficult to find an opportunity to really let our hair let us down. Outside at night when there is no one, we get a little noise.